They say “Only the good die young.” But…that’s not really always true. There are good people who die when they’re 80. There are awful people who die when they’re 20. And there are all of those in between.
When someone passes away, we hold on to the good in them because that’s what helps us get through our life without that person we loved so much. And, while, that’s okay…lest we not forget that some people don’t just die. Some people do stupid shit…and that paves the path to their death.
But this isn’t about those people…because some people, some people truly die tragically. A tragedy is when a young woman has to battle cancer for years and years…and she’s only in her 20s. A tragedy is when it’s finally too much…and she just can’t fight anymore. A tragedy is the life that she could’ve lived, but won’t…and it’s not because of anything she did wrong. It just happened. Because bad things happen to good people sometimes. Sometimes good people do die young.
It’s always harder to accept a death when it’s someone who is young…when it’s someone who you remember as so full of life. But what will get friends and family through this is knowing she was so loved. She was strong, through a very trying ordeal, and she had people there by her side.
I don’t know her parents or her brother or her husband or all of her closest friends. But my deepest condolences go out to all of those so close to her, who have been so greatly devastated by this loss. I knew Nikki in high school and was able to reconnect a few years after. I hadn’t seen her in about 2 years. The last time I saw her was when I ran into her at the mall…in Starbucks. She came across my mind often, though, especially when I’d heard she was very sick again. I will always remember our talks in history class…lol…some crazy conversations. I think that’s how I’ll remember her…just sitting in class together…bullshitting…
She’s no longer in pain and she’s at peace now…and as difficult as it will be, I hope her friends and family will find that same peace some day. I’m just truly so, so sorry.